You ever randomly hear about someone you used to hang with to find out that they’re still doing the same ole same ole? Not too long ago, I was told of the adventures of a guy I used to date and was not surprised at all to learn that he’s still up to the same antics he engaged in nearly four years ago. Now, I’m not saying that I never did anything dumb or careless, but all the dumb and careless things I did were done yearssss ago. And they stayed there.

I believe that maturity comes with age and experience. You learn that so-and-so lives recklessly and you decide you’re not so willing to hang out with them anymore. You find out that spending $100 on liquor is probably not the best way to use your college refund check. You peep the game and apply it towards the future.

I came to the point in life where I prefer to stay in than go out. And if I do go out, it’s usually to the movies or to eat (I mean, I’m tired from the work week. There’s only so much energy I have left.) I’m not 20 anymore. I’m not supposed to be the same chick that used to start the weekend on Thursday at the Rook. I know my alcoholic limits. I know I get tired by 10:30 pm (hush). I’m getting older and I’m maturing and part of that maturation is in my relationship with God. You reallllly can’t convince people that you’re a true Christian when you’re Instagramming drunken photos of yourself before getting to the club. And you really can’t appear to have it all together when you’re in your mid-to-late twenties and still going out as if your liver is brand new. 1 Peter 4:3 basically says that we spent enough time in our past getting ratchet, but now we gotta let that go and develop in the Lord. In order to progress ourselves, we have to be able to leave certain actions in the past. It pains me to see people with such potential wasting their lives by engaging in the same foolery that got them into trouble years ago. Alas, to each his own. All I can do is pray for their sakes and keep it moving.

Do you know of anyone who’s still living like it’s 2009? How do you deal?

Credits: jah~

Published by Ashleigh

Ashleigh is a recent M.S. graduate from Northeastern University. She works as an interactive designer in Atlanta and loves dogs, Netflix, and great food. Oh, also the creator and designer of this here shindig you are reading right now. View my impersonal personal blog @

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