After looking at the remnants of the charred relationship, friendship, or opportunity, at times we attempt to salvage what is left. We send texts to pacify our original thoughts. We wear smiles to eradicate a negative opinion. We overwhelm ourselves with responsibility to prove our loyalty. By attempting to put together the pieces of what is left, we are leaving the door to a bad situation ajar. It’s like we want to keep a backup plan just in case moving on is too scary doesn’t work out.
But why do we do this? Are we so afraid that we made the wrong decision by severing ties? Why, yes. That’s it. We were told by our family members to not burn bridges and this has manifested in our personal and professional relationships. However, I’m hear to tell you that despite popular belief, it is okay to burn some bridges. Why? Because some bridges should have never been crossed in the first place.
Often, we will put ourselves in a relationship we should have never been in and stay way after it’s expiration date. By burning that bridge, we make a cathartic effort to never repeat or allow that situation to creep back into our lives. It’s so easy to find comfort in an emotionally taxing environment because it provides a level of stability that we’re familiar with. Leaving that environment—whether it be a relationship or job—pushes you into the unknown, which is a place most of us are afraid of because it’s unpredictable and uncertain. It’s not a simple task, by all means, but it’s one that we must do to move forward.
So once you’ve identified that your situation is taking a toll on you, you must find the strength to leave. Rely on your faith, confide in true friends and trusted family members and go. Burn that bridge so you can begin a better tomorrow. It’s for your wellbeing.