How to Impress After the Interview

The interview process is one of the most stressful things an adult can go through, even if they are extremely confident in their abilities. But once you’ve received that email or phone call inquiring about your skills in a phone screen, you’re in. You just need to convince them. And there is one way that will definitely put you on top.

Nope, it’s not just preparing for the interview. And it’s not because you asked all the right questions. Your flawless Linkedin page isn’t it either. It’s simpler than that.

When you leave your in-person interview, send the interviewer(s) a hand-written thank you note.

Because technology is so prevalent, written notes aren’t in like they used to be. It’s very convenient to send an email, and sometimes it is necessary to do so, but there is something about taking the time to write out your thoughts and appreciation that can go a long way.

And it’s really not that hard to do. Bring a blank or partially-written thank you card with you in a folder or notebook that won’t allow it to get crushed or disformed. When the interview is over, sit in your car or in a nearby space and write a sincere thank you. Don’t over do it by any means, but just write a few sentences to express your gratitude for the opportunity and your interest in the position. Then, get his or her name from their business card, website, or email signature and send it via the closest post office mailbox you can find. Google the location of the mailbox before the interview so you can drop it off immediately afterwards. Sit back and wait for your job blessings to flow.

If in the very rare occurrence that you don’t move forward in the interview process, try to remain positive. Your thank you note could keep you in a favorable light with the hiring manager and related staff. You never know.

Good luck! Let us know how it fares.

Declutter Your Life

I recently had to declutter my computer. For those of you that spend A LOT of time on their desktop, laptop, tablet, or cell phone know exactly what I mean. I had so many things on my MacBook that took up space and slowed it down. Though I have a terabit external hard drive, there were things on my laptop that I knew I didn’t want to remove completely. So I made excuses to keep everything on my computer and my external hard drive. But by doing that, I drove myself crazy. My computer moved so. slow. and didn’t perform as well as I wanted it to. So one day, I got fed up and started deleting things off my laptop and finally placed them on the external drive.

Life is just like that.

If you have a lot of unnecessary things in your world–people, relationships, or material items–remove it.

It’ll allow you to breathe better, perform better, and move at a faster pace. You could probably live without all of the “junk” you’ve been holding on to anyway. Analyze their purpose in your life to decide if they even have a tangible place in your present and future. If they don’t, you know what to do. It’s time for you to hold on to the things that you need and let go of the things that just clutter your life mentally, physically, and emotionally. You can do it.

Why ‘I Love You’ Doesn’t Mean Anything

The movies make the phrase “I love you” a big deal. You know, it’s said when one party realizes that this person is the one for them. In the romcoms, it usually escalates the relationship to the next level. When we were kids, that usually meant physical intimacy. But the times have changed. Growing up made us realize that that’s not always how relationships go. Depending on the situation, “I love you” might not mean really anything at all.

Sometimes “I love you” is uttered to pacify a situation.

Think about a couple that fights. all. the. time. They usually fight over the same thing–miscommunication, trust, or what-have-you. After a series of back-and-forth, he says it. She’s happy because he hadn’t said it before and he’s happy she stopped irritating him. He didn’t really mean it, he just wanted a moment of peace.

Or maybe it was said too soon.

Men with little-to-no real relationship experience feel like “I love you” is the same thing as “I like you” or “what we have is nice.” Serial daters say it because they really don’t know what love is. They hop from relationship to relationship to avoid dealing with intrapersonal issues. And as soon as this relationship ends, you’re left with the remnants of said “love.”

Point blank: his level of emotional maturity makes him say things he doesn’t mean or can’t handle. “I love you” should be a weighted phrase. Saying it to any and everyone diminishes its value. So next time someone says this to you, you’ll know wassup. Stay woke, sis.